Dear Athena
Issue date: 3/27/08 Section: Entertainment
Dear Athena,
I am a new student from out of state, and so far I love this school.
However, lately I have been worried about keeping in touch with my friends at home. I don't want to lose the friends I have had my whole life, but I know that my college experience depends on the new friends that I make.
I have already begun to hang out with my roommates and I feel like we will all be close friends. Is this pulling me away from my good friends back at home?
Thanks,
One is Silver and the Other Gold
Dear One:
You are experiencing some very common growing pains. It is hard to move away from home, leaving lifelong friends and family behind.
The best thing you can do is continue to make new friends here at school, while keeping in contact with your old friends at home.
Friends grow apart as a lack of effort and communication between friends. If you continue to keep in contact with your old friends and make a sincere effort to be a part of their lives, you will keep them as friends forever.
Dear Athena,
I just recently got a girlfriend here at NDNU. We met in class first semester and we've been dating ever since. She is from Hawaii, so she is not likely to stay here in California for summer.
We have decided to stay together, but I am worried that I will miss her too much! I think it would really help me through the summer if we plan a few times when we can see each other. So should I invite her to my house?
Summer Separation
Dear Summer Separation,
This is a question many of us face when continuing relationships over long distances. It is never easy in the beginning to know when to move forward and when to just relax and enjoy your time together. However, summer is a significantly long period of time. I think you are on the right track by arranging a few weekends during the summer where you can visit each other.
It may be a little overwhelming for you both to meet each others families, but if you plan to continue you relationship, it's bound to happen sooner or later! Remember to plan to spend time with family and friends from home over the summer as well as visits with your girlfriend to avoid missing her too much!
I am a new student from out of state, and so far I love this school.
However, lately I have been worried about keeping in touch with my friends at home. I don't want to lose the friends I have had my whole life, but I know that my college experience depends on the new friends that I make.
I have already begun to hang out with my roommates and I feel like we will all be close friends. Is this pulling me away from my good friends back at home?
Thanks,
One is Silver and the Other Gold
Dear One:
You are experiencing some very common growing pains. It is hard to move away from home, leaving lifelong friends and family behind.
The best thing you can do is continue to make new friends here at school, while keeping in contact with your old friends at home.
Friends grow apart as a lack of effort and communication between friends. If you continue to keep in contact with your old friends and make a sincere effort to be a part of their lives, you will keep them as friends forever.
Dear Athena,
I just recently got a girlfriend here at NDNU. We met in class first semester and we've been dating ever since. She is from Hawaii, so she is not likely to stay here in California for summer.
We have decided to stay together, but I am worried that I will miss her too much! I think it would really help me through the summer if we plan a few times when we can see each other. So should I invite her to my house?
Summer Separation
Dear Summer Separation,
This is a question many of us face when continuing relationships over long distances. It is never easy in the beginning to know when to move forward and when to just relax and enjoy your time together. However, summer is a significantly long period of time. I think you are on the right track by arranging a few weekends during the summer where you can visit each other.
It may be a little overwhelming for you both to meet each others families, but if you plan to continue you relationship, it's bound to happen sooner or later! Remember to plan to spend time with family and friends from home over the summer as well as visits with your girlfriend to avoid missing her too much!
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